“COUGARS”

If you’re familiar with the movie “The Graduate”, where a young Dustin Hoffman has an affair with the older and mature Mrs. Robinson, you may have a small grasp of why younger men sometimes like older women. Here in America, it’s rare but not uncommon for a younger man to be with an older woman. It’s appealing. It’s also alluring. A mature woman provides several attractive qualities.

The allure comes in several forms:

1. Older women are taboo; taboos are attractive

It’s a cultural taboo for a younger man to date a mature woman. It’s usually the other way around: an older male with a younger female.

Much like the forbidden fruit, older women are theoretically off limits for younger guys. While it may be uncommon for a 21 year-old man to date a 31 year-old woman, it’s certainly not illegal. People would probably view the interaction as a novelty.

2. Mature women make men feel more comfortable

Young women have less experience with men and tend to be less stable in general than older women. Men like women who make them feel comfortable, emotionally.

Also, as far as sexual maturity goes, women tend to peak in their late twenties, while men peak around age 18.

Young women may have hundreds of men chasing after them; this makes a young man feel the pressures of competition from other males.

Older women offer an alternative. It’s nice to feel attractive; in the eyes of an mature woman, a young man may be a very attractive object.

3. Older women may be hunting for younger guys

There is a class of women known colloquially as “cougars”, these women are typically professional, attractive, and earn middle-class incomes without the help of a man.
“Cougars” are women who may have been through a rough divorce and want the fun life of a single. “Cougars” tend to actively seek younger men, either at bars, on the internet, or in the work place.

4. Young men do not have much experience with women

Young men may simply not know what to expect with women. The rules of dating and relationships may be new territory to explore; it’s helpful to have someone with experience. It’s certainly nice to have a “take-charge” kind of women as a partner. People tend to want what they cannot have, or should not have. Mature women represent an unfulfilled fantasy for many young men. Many men have sexual fantasies about professional women, such as teachers, librarians,doctors, and authority figures. Dating an older women provides a real-life solution to such fantasies.

On the other hand, most people see less of a problem with older men dating younger women. Younger women are viewed as “trophy wives”, “gold-diggers” or even “home-wreckers”. The taboo of an older woman is a convoluted artifact of a patriarchal culture.

Fundamentally, human beings seek pleasure: if you’ve seen “The Graduate”, you’ll know that older women dating younger men tends to be a short-term experience. It’s fun while it lasts, but most likely, ephemeral.

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Women generally play down their confidence in the workplace just to fit in and make friends. But if you’re serious about climbing that ladder of success, you better be ready to play the confident woman’s part.

Here are a few tips that can help you create a persona of confidence and assertiveness without coming across as arrogant or bitchy.

Eye Contact

This is one of the most important features that can portray your confidence. Don’t look down or look away when you feel awkward or uncomfortable. If you want to be taken seriously, you have to hold your head up while talking. You don’t have to stare hard at the person you’re talking to, but a confident woman communicates with her eyes. So make sure you’re looking straight up while you want to make a point. It helps you read the person’s mind and it also shows your confidence.

Facial Expressions

Another important aspect to show your confidence is through your expressions. Many women find it very easy to express warmth and friendliness. It’s easy for women to smile and be nice, but when it comes to showing their displeasure or anger, women at work find it hard to express themselves. Use a mirror to see how you look when you want to express different expressions. Practice your different emotions, because when it comes to women, it’s not just what we say that makes the difference. It’s the way we look while we express the emotions that matters. Try making it look good!

Posture

When it comes to your posture, a mirror can be a great advisor. Look into your mirror and see the way you stand or walk. Your posture can talk a lot about your confidence and can change the way you feel about yourself. Stand in a meek and passive manner, and then shift your body to assume a confident stance, by leaning slightly forward with your feet grounded with half a feet of distance between them. See how confident you would feel with that stance. Also try discovering your optimal distance. Figure out how much distance you’d like to keep between yourself and others you’re communicating with.

You can find your comfort zone and optimal distance either through experience or by asking a friend to remain stationary as you move closer while conversing with her. Make eye contact and see how close you can get before you feel uncomfortable, and too close.

Gestures

Have you ever paid attention to your gestures? Would you be comfortable talking to someone without moving your hands around? Make sure your gestures don’t distract anyone when you are delivering a speech or having a conversation. You might have heard people say that you should move your hands a lot while communicating, which may be true. But once you notice that the audience or the person you’re conversing with is paying more attention to your hands than what you’re saying, its time you put a stop to it. On the other hand, don’t hold your arms rigidly to your sides or fold them across your chest. Learn to move your hands and gesticulate without looking like you’re trying to control the traffic.

You don’t need to go for a course on confidence nor do you have to get a degree to sound confident. It’s just those little things that make you stand out in a crowd that matter.

If you could just follow these simple pointers that have been mentioned here, you could very well be on your way to becoming the powerful and confident woman you have always aspired to be.

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Blind People Dream

People who become blind after birth can see images in their dreams. People who are born blind do not see any images, but have dreams equally vivid involving their other senses of sound, smell, touch and emotion. It is hard for a seeing person to imagine, but the body’s need for sleep is so strong that it is able to handle virtually all physical situations to make it happen.

You Forget 90% of your Dreams

Within 5 minutes of waking, half of your dream if forgotten. Within 10, 90% is gone. The famous poet, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, woke one morning having had a fantastic dream (likely opium induced) – he put pen to paper and began to describe his “vision in a dream” in what has become one of English’s most famous poems: Kubla Khan. Part way through (54 lines in fact) he was interrupted by a “Person from Porlock“. Coleridge returned to his poem but could not remember the rest of his dream. The poem was never completed.
In Xanadu did Kubla Khan
A stately pleasure-dome decree:
Where Alph, the sacred river, ran
Through caverns measureless to man
Down to a sunless sea.
[…]
Curiously, Robert Louis Stevenson came up with the story of Doctor Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde whilst he was dreaming.  Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein was also the brainchild of a dream.

Everybody Dreams

Every human being dreams (except in cases of extreme psychological disorder) but men and women have different dreams and different physical reactions. Men tend to dream more about other men, while women tend to dream equally about men and women. In addition, both men and women experience sexually related physical reactions to their dreams regardless of whether the dream is sexual in nature; males experience erections and females experience increased vaginal blood flow.

Dreams Prevent Psychosis

In a recent sleep study, students who were awakened at the beginning of each dream, but still allowed their 8 hours of sleep, all experienced difficulty in concentration, irritability, hallucinations, and signs of psychosis after only 3 days. When finally allowed their REM sleep the student’s brains made up for lost time by greatly increasing the percentage of sleep spent in the REM stage

We Only Dream of What We Know

Our dreams are frequently full of strangers who play out certain parts – did you know that your mind is not inventing those faces – they are real faces of real people that you have seen during your life but may not know or remember? The evil killer in your latest dream may be the guy who pumped petrol in to your Dad’s car when you were just a little kid. We have all seen hundreds of thousands of faces through our lives, so we have an endless supply of characters for our brain to utilize during our dreams.

Not Everyone Dreams in Color

A full 12% of sighted people dream exclusively in black and white. The remaining number dream in full color. People also tend to have common themes in dreams, which are situations relating to school, being chased, running slowly/in place, sexual experiences, falling, arriving too late, a person now alive being dead, teeth falling out, flying, failing an examination, or a car accident. It is unknown whether the impact of a dream relating to violence or death is more emotionally charged for a person who dreams in color than one who dreams in black and white

Dreams are not about what they are about

If you dream about some particular subject it is not often that the dream is about that. Dreams speak in a deeply symbolic language. The unconscious mind tries to compare your dream to something else, which is similar. Its like writing a poem and saying that a group of ants were like machines that never stop. But you would never compare something to itself, for example: “That beautiful sunset was like a beautiful sunset”. So whatever symbol your dream picks on it is most unlikely to be a symbol for itself.

Quitters have more vivid dreams

People who have smoked cigarettes for a long time who stop, have reported much more vivid dreams than they would normally experience. Additionally, according to the Journal of Abnormal Psychology: “Among 293 smokers abstinent for between 1 and 4 weeks, 33% reported having at least 1 dream about smoking. In most dreams, subjects caught themselves smoking and felt strong negative emotions, such as panic and guilt. Dreams about smoking were the result of tobacco withdrawal, as 97% of subjects did not have them while smoking, and their occurrence was significantly related to the duration of abstinence. They were rated as more vivid than the usual dreams and were as common as most major tobacco withdrawal symptoms.”

External Stimuli Invade our Dreams

This is called Dream Incorporation and it is the experience that most of us have had where a sound from reality is heard in our dream and incorporated in some way. A similar (though less external) example would be when you are physically thirsty and your mind incorporates that feeling in to your dream. My own experience of this includes repeatedly drinking a large glass of water in the dream which satisfies me, only to find the thirst returning shortly after – this thirst… drink… thirst… loop often recurs until I wake up and have a real drink. The famous painting above (Dream Caused by the Flight of a Bee around a Pomegranate a Second Before Awakening) by Salvador Dali, depicts this concept.

You are paralyzed while you sleep

Believe it or not, your body is virtually paralyzed during your sleep – most likely to prevent your body from acting out aspects of your dreams. According to the Wikipedia article on dreaming, “Glands begin to secrete a hormone that helps induce sleep and neurons send signals to the spinal cord which cause the body to relax and later become essentially paralyzed.”

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* When you are snoring, you are not dreaming.
* Toddlers do not dream about themselves until around the age of 3. From the same age, children typically have many more nightmares than adults do until age 7 or 8.
* If you are awakened out of REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, you are more likely to remember your dream in a more vivid way than you would if you woke from a full night sleep

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Do you think you’re seeing the perfect man with whom you want to spend the rest of your life? But is he thinking along the same lines? He may pamper you with gifts and little nothings, but does he really love you enough to look at you as a long term girlfriend or potential partner for life?

Sometimes it’s not the proclamations of love or the dozen red roses that says “I love you”. Body language is the secret, powerful method of communication through which we communicate more than half of what we actually mean.

So is your man truly in love with you, or is it just for the moment? Watch out for these oh-so-subtle ways to tell if your man really loves you enough to look at you as a long-term partner potential.

1. While watching TV

Understandably, you can’t tear your eyes away from McSteamy on your favorite show, but notice all of your man’s subtle body cues while you’re watching the telly. Is his arm around you in a protective gesture? That means he wants to take care of you. He clasps your hand while interlacing fingers, it shows that he wants to have an intimate connection.

2. While you’re with his friends

If his arm is around your shoulders, he’s signaling to his friends and other males around that you belong to him in a gesture that brings out the caveman in him. If it’s around your waist, he is telling them that you are a keeper.

3. When you’re at his place

Guys are natural slobs with a few exceptions. Only in movies do bachelor pads have perfectly coordinated furniture and scented candles. In reality, the main attraction at a bachelor pad is the beer can pyramid. So if he makes an effort to clear up the mess in his room, then he’s decided you’re worth the once-a-year spring cleaning he gives his room. He might stop doing this after a while which only shows he’s comfortable enough with you to be himself.

The ultimate sign that he has white picket fences in mind is if he lets you leave your random girlie objects around the house, and no, toothbrush doesn’t count. That is mostly regarded as an essential part of oral hygiene. But if he’s okay with your pink yoga mat in the living room or your mirror cushions on the bed, pat yourself on the back, you’re in!

4. When you’re at dinner

Your filet mignon may be delicious but keep your eyes peeled to check cues that your guy is in it for the long haul. As Joey from ‘Friends’ may tell you, guys don’t like sharing food. What’s on their plate is theirs, so don’t you dare even try and flick a fry. But if your man is willing to share his plate with you or offers you a bite, he is opening up his personal space to you and wants to be intimate. Alternately, if he starts moving his plates and glasses around, he’s trying to reduce the space between you both and wants to get closer.

5. When it’s just you and him

In the early stages of love, neither partner can keep their hands off the other. But whatever the stage, if he likes to hold you with his arms around you, hands resting on your belly, then he’s subconsciously decided that you are the mother of his children.

Another show of love when you’re together is how he falls asleep. Once he’s in a deep slumber, he instinctively either moves toward you or moves away, claiming his space at his end of the bed. It doesn’t take a genius to figure this one out. Also, if he reaches for you the minute he gets up, it literally means you’re the first thing on his mind when he wakes up!

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When men talk candidly about women, they sound… well, they sound a little like us. Sex may have laid a hefty claim on the male brain, but it doesn’t seem to be relevant when it comes to what he’s really looking for in a partner, which is just that – a partner. According to them, men want a counterpart they respect, a cohort who shares their interests and a confidant they can talk to. They want women to be happy with who they are and comfortable getting what they want. So listen up. Men just may be a little simpler (and more complex) than you thought.

According to the boys, men want a girl who:

Knows what she wants
Confidence is still the name of the game. Many men listed trying to hard to please others (including them) as a turn-off. Instead, women who know what they want (and aren’t afraid to ask for it) were described as attractive, sexy and desirable.

Makes me laugh
A sense of humor is as important to men as it is to women. After all, a relationship without its fair share of laughter gets old pretty quickly, if it gets started at all. Lighthearted, witty or utterly ridiculous doesn’t seem to matter, as long as you get each other’s jokes and aren’t afraid to throw dignity to the wind and get silly sometimes.

Takes care of herself
Yes, looks made the list. But no one cited “beauty” or “great legs” among his criteria. Instead, it seems that looking “put together” is essential. Men admitted that they want a woman to “put time into her appearance” and be generally neat and organized while avoiding the “high maintenance” category.

Shares my interests
If you can’t agree on what to do together, it gets complicated to be together. It is important to guys that their girls have common interests (or be open to them). Whether they’re into rock climbing or old movies, they’d much rather have you along. And even if it’s not your thing, simply being curious and open-minded about their work and hobbies can be enough to satisfy their need to be understood.

Surprises me
It’s actually not much of a surprise; spontaneity ranked high as a very desirable trait in a woman, though the quality earned varying definitions. For some it was the inclination to make spur-of-the-moment decisions or having a generally “adventuresome” personality. For others it was enough that a woman thought differently than they did and had the ability to surprise them with her outlook, her suggestions or her actions.

Impresses me
Many women get the message that men are threatened or turned off by intelligent, powerful women, but according to the source, that’s pure fiction. Guys want someone they can respect. They cited intelligence as a highly desirable quality; quite a few admitted that they preferred a woman who is more intelligent than they are. Strong really is beautiful, so put your best self forward.

Doesn’t care what I think
It’s not always what they say to our faces, but guys claim to respect a woman who does her own thing, even when it isn’t aligned with what he wants. Independence is strong and attractive, and it’s a plus when he knows you’re autonomous enough to be on your own and have a good time without him.

Tells it straight
Guys don’t want to have to play games or guess what a woman wants, so they’re drawn to honesty, sincerity and the ability to communicate clearly. If you’re straightforward about how you feel and what you want, he can react to you rather than waste time trying to gauge what’s really going on. Men aren’t exactly pros when it comes to reading our minds, and they know it. Being upfront about how you feel can make it a little easier on everyone.

Cares about me
They didn’t seem as concerned with being the sun to her earth as they were interested in women who are genuinely compassionate. While a girl who is the center of her own universe might be intriguing in the beginning, it gets old fast, and men want to be treated with kindness and respect as much as women do. They also notice how we act when it’s not about them: back-stabbing and cattiness score high as major turn-offs.

Confuses me
Don’t ever feel that you’re beholden to one version of yourself or that he’ll lose interest if you reveal your “dark” side. Men are strangely drawn to contradictions, and the polarities of your personality are what make you uniquely you. Let yourself be bookish and passionate, conservative but spontaneous, lighthearted and intellectual — those warring contradictions that can make you crazy can also make you mysterious and continually surprising.

Ladies…do you have it in you?

Sit down with your partner while reading this, or send this feature across to your partner so they too can understand these pointers. If you’re already experiencing the symptoms of a money squabble, here are some thoughts that would definitely make a difference in your lives.

Q1. Is it the purchase or the relationship that holds more value to you?

In a happy relationship, both of you have an equal say, and any amount of money you earn does not enable you to enjoy more power in your relationship. Nor does that mean you can buy what you want, whether your partner likes it or not.

Q2. Do you really need to buy that?

Whenever you want to buy something, ask yourself if you really need it, and can’t do without it. And then ask your partner about it, and rationalize. If both of you are comfortable with the thought of making that purchase, go ahead. If not, read Q1 again!

Q3. Are you a spendthrift?

Be truthful here, because lying will not help anyone. Do you love spending money because it makes you feel good, or better than people around you? Have you done anything to deal with the issue? If you’re a spendthrift then gradually cut down your expenses to a moderate level. But if you find that you still can’t come to terms with each other’s views, it would be better to reassess your relationship.

Q4. Do you get abusive when your partner points out your excessive purchases?

It is always easier to curse the darkness than to light a candle. It is easier to abuse than to try and listen. Start listening and do not yell. Stay calm and put forth your view on issues in a clear manner. No amount of anger will ease the situation. Get involved in issues together and sort the differences, but don’t ever get repetitive on your partner’s flaws.

Q5. Have both of you set goals on your expenditure levels?

It is your goals that should guide your expense. Set realistic goals and pursue them together. This will reduce your arguments.

Q5. Have you started making the changes?

It might not be easy at first to reduce your expenses. But you will soon be able to sort out all your differences, and appreciate and respect each other’s opinions when it comes to making purchases. You could, of course, set aside a certain amount of money to spend on small luxuries now and then, as long as it’s feasible.

Q6. Are both of you participating equally in money management?

Equal participation is the key to a happy future. Whether it is in setting goals or for analyzing your budget, never burden your partner with too much responsibility or take all of it away from them. It is important for both of you to take decisions together and share the responsibilities. Involve your partner in every decision and help them involve themselves. Make your partner feel wanted. Shunning one partner’s view on purchases and money management will only create a bigger rift between both of you.

A huge crisis in money management or a big debt may crush you. But no matter how hard times may be, or how many curveballs life throws at you, as long as you both stand by each other’s side, you’ve got nothing to fear. And you will overcome it all, together.

don’t get too personal…

Arguments in relationships get a pretty bad rap. There are a lot of articles on the Web based on avoiding arguments. The truth is conflict is a natural form of creating boundaries and learning about each other. It is not the arguing/debating itself that can be hurtful to a relationship, but rather the poor techniques involved with its execution. Here are seven simple strategies to ensure your occasional debate with your partner is handled with finesse, sensitivity, and above all — maturity.

Start and Finish Disputes on a Positive Note
One of the biggest reasons arguments end badly is because they start poorly as well. Choose an appropriate time when you and your partner are rested and connected. By connected, I am referring to being in sync with each other, as in after food shopping, gardening, or taking a walk together (“together,” being the qualifying word). Open the conversation with how much you appreciate the good things about the relationship, before discussing anything that might be construed as bad. When you’re finished, thank your partner for their time and attention, and remind them that you love them.

Use “I”, Not “You”
Nobody likes the blame game, and arguments should never be based on what the other partner is doing, but rather how the effected partner is feeling. The worst statements are generalizations, or absolutes like, “You always stay at work late,” or “you never help around the house anymore.” Instead, validate your reason for the discussion with personal observations such as, “I feel like you don’t want to spend time with me,” or “I would appreciate a little more help with chores.”

Listen!
This is one of the more obvious strategies, but you would be surprised at the number of arguments that take place, where nobody is really listening to each other. Instead, partners are too busy rolling their eyes, interrupting, or rehearsing what they’re going to say next. Until you really “get” what it is your partner is saying, you will not reach an acceptable resolution. What’s more, when your partner senses you aren’t listening, it puts them on the defense. One of the best ways to show a partner you’re attentive to the problem is to look them in the eye.

Respect

Respect is one of the fundamental necessities of working through conflict. It allows both sides equal say on the matter. It reduces the occurrence of stonewalling (refusal to talk or listen). It finds an appropriate time and place to talk (don’t start arguments in public or in front of the kids), and it ensures raised voices, sarcasm, and verbal abuse stays in check. If you feel your tolerance level reaching its limit, take a break — and walk away. Just make sure you let your partner know you need time (don’t just leave the room), and then make sure you come back and rejoin the conversation within 24 hours.

Your Goal is Not to Win, It’s Compromise
The immature strategy of an argument is to win. The mature strategy is to work to make sure both partners are victorious. In arguments where there’s a winner, it leaves behind a sticky residue on the relationship, which will guarantee hard feelings the next time conflict arises. A few techniques to ensure a unanimous win-win situation, is to brainstorm solutions, make a pro/con list, or pull a third party (counselor) into the mix if you really find yourselves at a wall.

Stay On Topic
Taking one problem on at a time is a good rule of thumb when dealing with conflict. A lot of partners will bring up various other upsets/past events, in order to shed some of the heat from themselves, but it will only confuse matters worse. It’s difficult to solve a problem when different topics are being introduced. With this said, there’s one caveat. Sometimes an argument about coming home late or not doing chores underlies an even bigger problem, such as fear a partner is cheating, etc. If you sense there’s more to the issue than what appears, take the time to question your partner.

Ask Questions
This strategy is quite simple. If you don’t understand what your partner is trying to say, ask more about it. Use the advice above to help formulate appropriate questions. You never want to insult or insinuate your partner is a poor communicator (“You never make any sense, what are you trying to say?” “Is it that time of the month again?”). Sometimes by asking them to clarify the problem, you are not only helping yourself understand their feelings, but you’re helping discover any hidden instigators of the problem (lack of time spent together, etc.).

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Does your man constantly stare at other woman no matter how many times you’ve told him it makes you feel uncomfortable? Then it’s time to open your bag of sneaky tactics. And trust us, this will stop your man from staring at other women when you’re around!

Does you Man always Stare at Other Women?

Tell him that his constant drooling appreciation of the opposite gender in front of you bothers you. Why? Explain that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Ask him how he would react if you did the same and state that it makes you look like a fool in front of others. If he cares for you, he will understand and try to control his ogling eyes at least by some extent.

Don’t accept any corny excuses

If your man comes up with the most likely response, that he has to check out other women to reestablish that you’re the best for him, don’t accept it. If he really loves you, he doesn’t need to constantly reaffirm it, and definitely not by leching at other women. Laugh it off and demand a smarter explanation or mention that his behavior is unacceptable. And if his excuse is that he can’t help it, point out that he’s a grown-up who should be in control of his behavior. And if he’s that much of a slave to his ogling habits, you might want to consider whether you want to be with such a man.

The pot calling the kettle black

If, after you’ve talked to him about it, he continues to size up other women in front of you, it’s probably time to give him a taste of his own medicine. Next time you’re out together and he starts giving his eyes some exercise, crack your knuckles and prepare yourself for a staring game, female style. Stare at other men, smile more often at others, do that thing with your hair as you stare at another man, giggle at that cutie in the next table and look away, and just about do anything that would attract other men’s attention.

When he asks you about it, which he definitely would if he even remotely cares about you, let your eyes drift away to the next table again, before smiling at him lovingly as if he’s just come back into focus. A vague, “Sorry hun, did you say something?”, should get him making himself look like an idiot, at which stage you can laugh it off and say you’re only joking, or that it doesn’t mean anything, or that he’s the one you really want.

He may get what you’re trying to prove here, unless he’s a dense troll. But in either case, a few dates of the staring game should help him learn a good lesson about stares and the power women wield when it comes to the staring game!

And while you’re indulging in the staring game, make sure you have your share of fun. After all, if you man doesn’t get the hint, you’d at least have a new arm candy who’s staring back at you right now!

It’s Not You, It’s My Genetic Sensors

The science of kissing is a fairly new field, and has been named “philematology.” There have been plenty of studies in recent years which have uncovered some very interesting assumptions about the function of kissing. In fact, if we collect all this information and begin to look at its patterns, we can begin to deduce the ways in which we can use this information to improve our overall love lives. Let’s start from the brain and make our way to the lips:

The lips, nose, tongue, mouth, and ears are the parts of the body (beside the sexual organs) holding the highest portion of sensors. Each time we kiss, we are overwhelmed by a flood of tactile sensation, taste, smell, and sound – research suggests that women use these to indicate whether or not a man is a good genetic match for her.

The brain deciphers a man’s genetic makeup through his saliva, and if she deems him to be a good specimen, she’ll swoon, and if he’s not, no matter how good of a kisser he is, his pucker will fall flat. This explains why 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women report a loss of interest in a person directly after the first kiss, so don’t take this kind of rejection to heart.

Kissing Creates Pair Bonding

Although not completely conclusive, studies suggest that kissing may release the chemical oxytocin, which initiates pair bonding in couples. This is theoretically one of the reasons why couples can stay together past the initial passion/romance stage of a relationship and raise children. Not incredibly romantic, but at least it shows that Mother Nature is rooting in the favor of monogamy.

Mind Your Hygiene

Studies suggest that despite the genetic draw for women, whether or not she’ll extend a date past the first kiss also depends highly on the hygiene of her partner. Brushing his teeth and gargling with a good mouthwash before each date is just as important as we’ve all been told.

Chocolate: The One Thing Better than a Kiss

There is only one true foe of a kiss, according to studies, and that’s chocolate. Chocolate creates a more intense and longer lasting “buzz” in both men and women, no matter how passionate and intense a kiss is. We can use this little bit of information, however, putting chemistry on our side by using chocolate lip gloss, or pre-staging a kissing interlude with a chocolate treat.

It’s Cool to Drool

Okay, now bare with me here, as this particular research can get a little sloppy. According to samples of saliva in men, there is a noticeable concentration of testosterone. It can be deduced from this that there is at least a slight chance that the sloppiest of open mouth kissing, might actually transfer more of his testosterone to his partner in lip lock, thus increasing her sex drive. One problem: Most women don’t like sloppy kissing… Doh!

Kissing is a Prerequisite to Intercourse at Least 85 Percent of the Time

Surveys show that the portion of men requiring a kissing session before getting down to sex is only about 50 percent. Women, on the other hand, require a kissing session prior to intercourse at least 85 percent of the time. This offers some additional proof on the genetic theory that women must first screen their partners for genetic compatibility before getting down to the practice of baby-making.

Kissing Keeps Our Loved Ones Around Longer

Besides all the health benefits associated with kissing, such as lower stress levels, blood pressure, and cholesterol, kissing also initiates the process known as cross-immunotherapy. By sharing saliva with a partner, we are in effect exposing ourselves to 20 percent of unknown bacteria. This stimulates our immune systems to create anti-bodies, making us less susceptible to illness (a sort of love-vaccine).

What are your favorite kissing secrets?

LOVE IT….

I am in my first relationship and most men like me think that women are convoluted creatures who cry for no reason and make ridiculous complaints. It’s been around two years since we have been together but I still have to listen to things like “You are very boring and unromantic” and a lot more. I always thought why she complains so much.

In my quest to know the reasons which make a girl happy I discovered a few habits that all women love, and all of these are pretty simple to adopt. So if you too are like me who is trying to win over his love of life, then all you need to do is adopt some basic habits and you will never have to hear her complains.

Compliments – Make her feel special

All women love to be appreciated. Make her feel special by giving compliments on her beauty, style of dressing, her laugh, the way she talks, the way she walks, there can be hundreds or probably thousands of such things.

But always make sure that your compliments must sound true. You would surely never want to complement a fat woman on her figure; doing so might just result in her thinking of you as a flirt and a guy who is not serious. Simple compliments like “You’re pretty” or “You look great in this      dress” will work wonders for her.

Call her – Woman love to receive phone calls

Being the most talkative creature on the earth, all women, whether in 20’s or 40’s like to be called up often. It may not be an hour long conversation but women simply love the fact that you are concerned and you keep her informed. Conversation over phone is as important as meeting personally.

Keeping her informed about your plans or other little things in your life helps in building trust.

Priority – They always want to be the topmost in your list

You have planned to watch soccer match this evening but your girl friend calls up and says she has bought two tickets for a new movie. Though the choice is yours and you can choose to do any of the things you like.

You may realize it or not, women appreciate this mystery. They know you love to watch soccer, which is all the more reason why your girl appreciates it when you choose to be with her instead of watching your favorite soccer. This makes her feel special to see that you have cancelled all your plans just to be with her.

Loads of Attention

I am a very sensitive and devoted man, and this type of species can be awfully boring. But all women appreciate the fact that you carefully listen to what she has to say and actually care about it. Always listen very carefully and try to ask questions, being a mere spectator won’t help you either, as she might think of you as a guy who nods his neck in support of whatever she says. And always try to remember what she’s said.

If you pay attention to what she says, it shows that you care about what’s going on with her, and she will just love it.

Women love surprises

Any woman who’s been dating for some time probably thinks she knows you completely and you too are like people she has known. So, when you surprise her with an unexpected gift, an unexpected phone call or cool date, she’ll feel like she’s found somebody who is different and somebody who is really special.

But make sure the surprise you are planning is a happy surprise otherwise things might just turn out the other way leaving her annoyed and angry.

Each woman has a different way of thinking and the things which might work for some may just turn out be a horrifying experience for others.